If you have ever seen a therapist, you may be familiar with the term “thoughts are just thoughts”. While absolutely true, your thoughts can make you unwell!
The power of positive thinking can make your life happier, more productive, and even longer.
Improve Your Happiness With Positivity
Yesterday, Jesse and I were watching a baseball game to pass the time. Normally I just listen while I work on the blog, but one of the “sportscasters” caught my attention.
He said that the coaches use the power of positivity in their coaching techniques. That wasn’t what caught my attention. He continued by saying that being positive can improve your happiness and your life by 40%.
Now that is intriguing.
As I began researching for this article, I couldn’t find actual statistics supporting this 40% he spoke of, but I did find other interesting facts!
- In the workforce, a researcher named Martin Seligman found that optimistic salespeople sold 37% more than pessimists.
- Happiness led to a 12% spike in work efficiency.
- Those who socialize at work and offer support to others are not only 10 times more likely to be productive, they are also 40 times more likely to be promoted.
- Those with a family history of heart disease, and a positive outlook were 1/3 less likely to have a heart attack within 5-25 years than those with a negative outlook.
- Positive people are happy, and happy people live longer, tend to be more healthy, and are generally more successful.
Are Your Thoughts Killing You?
Interestingly, when you search this in google, the first 5 entries are everyday people. It isn’t the Mayo clinic or Healthline as it usually is.
This tells me that many people suffer from a mind gone wild. Incessant thoughts that cannot be stopped are brutal and detrimental to your well-being!
Years ago, my mind was a runaway train. My mental health bled into every aspect of my life, tainting everything. I couldn’t sleep. I couldn’t eat. Concentrating was a joke.
I even stopped dreaming. This was frightening because I am a very vivid dreamer.
My mind was telling me that I was worthless, without hope, and everyone I knew would be better off without me. If I had listened to that… you can imagine the rest.
I truly felt that my mind was trying to kill me. It wasn’t until I learned of Mindfulness, one tool taught in DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy), that I was better able to handle the incessant negative thoughts.
You Are Not Your Thoughts
Thoughts are just thoughts and as my therapist told me, you are not your thoughts.
In the book “The Power of Now”, by Eckhart Tolle, he talks about “watching your thoughts”, and that these thoughts are the Ego. The Ego fights tooth and nail to remain the focal point of your life.
I call it by its name… Misery.
Eckhart Toole continues by separating the Ego from the “watcher”. The watcher, if I understand right, is you, your “being”, and it can fight. The Watcher can kick the Ego’s ass!
Once I grasped this concept, things started falling into place for me… I finally got it.
When my Ego spoke, it was hateful, critical, cruel even. But the Watcher starting chiming in more often, and I noticed that it became louder than the Ego!
Negative thoughts were less powerful with each day. It wasn’t without a great deal of hard work, but it was so worth all the effort!
How You Can Use The Power Of Positivity
There are things you can do to help you to be more positive. Here are a few to get you started on your way to more awesomeness.
- Start your day with Positive Affirmations- write positive affirmations on a note-card and place them all around your home.
- Look at “failures” in a whole new way- Instead of focusing on the negative, turn it into a learning experience. Literally learn from your mistakes.
- Practice gratitude- Have a gratitude attitude! Being grateful can help you live a more fulfilling life. It is even backed by science! (pssst, we are in the process of creating a Mindful/Gratitude program. Click here to subscribe so you receive notification once it is complete.)
- Surround yourself with positive people- If you struggle to be positive, being surrounded by negative complainers will not help. Separate yourself from those friends who drain you with their misery. Don’t be surprised when these friends think your efforts are worthless, misery loves company and if they won’t embrace your new attitude (which most won’t), it is time to cut the cord.
- Laugh Out Loud- Humor is good for us! Laughter is healing and good for the soul. Try to laugh and enjoy those feel good chemicals!
- Focus on the present- Living in the past can rob you of the good things right in front of you. Living in the future causes anxiety. Staying present is a powerful tool, if it works for you, use that shiz!
Our Conclusion On The Power Of Positive Thinking
Whether you are a negative or positive person, anyone can learn the skills to be more positive. It does take work, but it is well worth it for a happier, longer life.
Learn about cognitive distortions and learn to fight back and kick your negative thoughts to the curb!
You are a masterpiece, one of a kind, and you deserve happiness!
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